Tuesday, August 18, 2009

If I Only Knew Then What I Know Now

Who the hell really says that right?! Well everyone, but not everyone is willing to admit it.

HOWEVER, I’m willing to admit that I’ve made some mistakes, I’m not perfect, and I’m sure I’ll make more mistakes in the future.

I wish that I would have made more responsible decisions in my past, but that's all behind me. I can be more responsible in the future though…

Here’s my list of things I wish I knew then:

  • Being successful is great, but along with that success sometimes comes loneliness.
  • Money does not define who you are, only you can define who you are!
  • People will befriend you because they think they can benefit from what you have & not from who you are on the inside!
  • TRUE friends will be there through thick & thin, no matter how much you argue and/or fight, they’ll always have your back.
  • Student loan debt is a MF, be responsible & only take out the amount you need for school, not the amount you need for school & the amount you need to “have fun” while at school. Paying the loans back SUCKS ASS! I HATE STUDENT LOAN PAYMENTS!
  • Just because it’s shiny, it sparkles, and it’s new that doesn’t mean you can’t live without it!
  • Love will find you, there’s no point in looking for love.
  • Having an affair with a married man will only leave you with loads & loads of heartache, it’s not worth it. Just say no – kinda like what you should say to (illegal) drugs!
  • Your parents generally know what the hell they’re talking about.
  • Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer!
  • If a man is not willing to accept you for who & what you are, walk away because he doesn’t deserve you!
  • If a man has multiple children by multiple women, he’s probably a dog!
  • If a man has children & doesn’t pay child support, he’s not worth your time! If he isn’t taking care of his kids, why the hell would he take care of you?
  • If a man tells you he doesn’t want a relationship, then HE DOESN’T WANT A RELATIONSHIP! Don’t be foolish & try to convince him that he does!
  • When you can’t figure out what to do, turn on some music & dance your problems away.
  • Partying & drinking all night the day before a flight & then rushing through one of world’s craziest airports in a foreign country is a very dumb thing to do.
  • Partying & drinking all night the day before an 8 hour flight is even more insane, hungover motion sickness on a plane is terrible especially when crossing the Atlantic or Pacific ocean!
  • Breaking the heel on your favorite Nine West shoes because you ran through the airport to make your connection is totally worth it, being stuck overnight in a great city, but a roach motel is NOT worth it!
  • You’ll catch more flies with honey than you will with vinegar!
  • Don’t worry about what your “friends” are doing, worry about what you are doing & what you plan to do – only you can determine your destiny!

So that’s my list of “I wish I knew then what I know now.” The last few years I’ve gone through so many ups & downs, bad relationships, bad friendships, good friendships, good fun, good times, & good memories. I don’t want to look back & say I wish I would have, I want to look back & say this is what I did, this is what I learned, and this is how I grew!

What do you wish you knew then?


discobiscuit said...

Yay! I can comment now!

Really enjoyed this post, a great mix of sincerity and humour. I also really like your layout, go Britain!

- Pepper. x

throughlalaslashes said...

I TOTALLY agree about the student loans!! Mine suck the life out of me every time I see that minimum payment, that I might as well just throw away, come out of my bank account!
But honestly I wouldn't trade my college experience of not having a job for 4 years for anything. I would have never made it through school if I had to work to pay for it.

Sarah Von said...

I wish I knew then that dating the bad boy doesn't pay off. And usually, neither does dating men that are prettier than you.

Becca Christensen said...

Hmm, am I allowed a list of add ons? I agreed with almost all of yours (the ones I've experienced) but I'd also add...

- Sacrificing your own happiness for your parents, is rarely worth it.
- If you don't like who you are, it will be hard for other people too.
- Sometimes you have to fake it to get ahead, but always be honest with yourself.
- Life isn't a fairytale but it's ok to chase some of your dreams.
- It's ok to be selfish, sometimes.
- Great friends are hard to come by, make them feel appreciated. Do whatever it takes to keep them around.
Compromising who you are is never worth the sacrifice.

Those are my additions.

Loved this entry.


Kimolisa said...

I liked your list. What I wish I knew then that I know now is to enjoy every moment, get out there and act the fool because regret is a not a lot of fun.

Laura said...

You have a great list there and I agree with pretty much almost every one of them. I've also gone through a lot of crap in my past and although I didn't believe it then... if i sit back and think about where I am now, I totally and completely now believe in the popular saying "Everything happens for a reason". No matter how bad things may seem at a certain point in time, it will get better!! :)

Ebony Jewel said...

OMG I feel like the biggest bitch! I don't get emails when people comment, so I can never comment back. I'm going to hell for that right?! :) Sorry guys, I think I've fixed the whole comment issue and now I CAN comment back!

Discobiscuit - Loved the UK, I took that pic from the London Eye! I'm soooo ready to come back, but now isn't the right time. :(

throughlalaslashes - I wouldn't trade my education for anything, I just wish I could make my loans vanish like magic!

Sarah Von - Me too, but we live and we learn right?!

Becca Christensen - Of course you can add on & the first one on your list is great! I never thought of that, but it's true!

Kimolisa - So true, regret sucks!

Laura - Yep everything does happen for a reason, sometimes is soooo hard to see the reason through the pain though.

Daisy said...

This list is GOLD!!! Seriously - it is. I wish I had known these things too. If I could go back and tell my younger self anything - it would definitely be to stay true to yourself and change for no one. But alas - we grow - we learn - and all we can hope is that out futures are brighter. :)