Monday, November 23, 2009
How important is respect in a friendship?
At 20 something years old, I am learning a very valuable lesson about friendship!
One of the most important "ingredients" in a friendship is respect. Respect, as far as I'm concerned, is a mutual thing. You have to give respect in order to receive respect; you have to respect yourself in order for others to respect you.
Today I found out that a "friend" made some pretty nasty comments about me, of course, not to my face, but to a mutual "friend." After listening to some of the things she said, I really have to question the amount of respect I have for her and the amount of respect (obviously none) that she has for me. She made comments about my promotion and why she thought I received the promotion, about how she thinks he is paying my bills which is why I can afford to drive a "luxury" car, there were tons of other things, but I don't care to rehash.
I considered the person who made these comments a really good friend! We've known each other since we were in middle school & to find out that she said those things about me is flat out brutal. Our friendship hasn't been the same for a while, I felt like we were growing apart, but now I know our friendship will never be the same. I know that as we grow up, change careers, relocate, etc we often grow apart from old friends and make new friends, but I was not expecting this...not from her. I'd like to call her up and ask her why, but it's totally not worth my time huh?